My first husband in 2009, the last time I heard from him. By chance, I just recently learned that he died in 2020, age 54. By all accounts, he loved his life and was much loved. |
A gay man's view of the world from down Texas way
C I V I L M A R R I A G E I S A C I V I L R I G H T.A N D N O W I T ' S T H E L A W O F T H E L A N D.
My first husband in 2009, the last time I heard from him. By chance, I just recently learned that he died in 2020, age 54. By all accounts, he loved his life and was much loved. |
I am standing here in this exquisite Chapel of St George at Windsor Castle, so close to where my beloved mother, the late Queen, is laid to rest with my dear father.I am reminded of the deeply touching letters, cards and messages which so many of you have sent my wife and myself and I cannot thank you enough for the love and sympathy you have shown our whole family.Christmas is a particularly poignant time for all of us who have lost loved ones. We feel their absence at every familiar turn of the season and remember them in each cherished tradition.In the much-loved carol O Little Town Of Bethlehem we sing of how “in thy dark streets shineth the everlasting light”.My mother’s belief in the power of that light was an essential part of her faith in God, but also her faith in people and it is one which I share with my whole heart.It is a belief in the extraordinary ability of each person to touch, with goodness and compassion, the lives of others, and to shine a light in the world around them.This is the essence of our community and the very foundation of our society.We see it in the selfless dedication of our armed forces and emergency services who work tirelessly to keep us all safe, and who performed so magnificently as we mourned the passing of our late Queen.We see it in our health and social care professionals, our teachers and indeed all those working in public service, whose skill and commitment are at the heart of our communities.And at this time of great anxiety and hardship, be it for those around the world facing conflict, famine or natural disaster, or for those at home finding ways to pay their bills and keep their families fed and warm, we see it in the humanity of people throughout our nations and the Commonwealth who so readily respond to the plight of others.I particularly want to pay tribute to all those wonderfully kind people who so generously give food or donations, or that most precious commodity of all, their time, to support those around them in greatest need, together with the many charitable organisations which do such extraordinary work in the most difficult circumstances.Our churches, synagogues, mosques, temples and gurdwaras, have once again united in feeding the hungry, providing love and support throughout the year. Such heartfelt solidarity is the most inspiring expression of loving our neighbour as our self.The Prince and Princess of Wales recently visited Wales, shining a light on practical examples of this community spirit.Some years ago, I was able to fulfil a life-long wish to visit Bethlehem and the Church of the Nativity.There, I went down into the Chapel of the Manger and stood in silent reverence by the silver star that is inlaid on the floor and marks the place of our Lord Jesus Christ’s birth.It meant more to me than I can possibly express to stand on that spot where, as the Bible tells us, ‘the light that has come into the world’ was born.While Christmas is, of course, a Christian celebration, the power of light overcoming darkness is celebrated across the boundaries of faith and belief.So, whatever faith you have, or whether you have none, it is in this life-giving light, and with the true humility that lies in our service to others, that I believe we can find hope for the future.Let us therefore celebrate it together, and cherish it always.With all my heart, I wish each of you a Christmas of peace, happiness and everlasting light.
Madonna and Child by Il Sassoferrato, 1674. |
Holy and gracious Father: In your infinite love you made usfor yourself, and, when we had fallen into sin and becomesubject to evil and death, you, in your mercy, sent JesusChrist, your only and eternal Son, to share our humannature, to live and die as one of us, to reconcile us to you, the God and Father of all.
He stretched out his arms upon the cross, and offered himself,in obedience to your will, a perfect sacrifice for the wholeworld.
We cannot all do great things;but we can do small things with great love.
Our new 7.5-foot tree (cost only $25), with a rotating star full of rainbow-colored lights. |
Ukraine’s Volodymyr Zelenskyy told cheering U.S. legislators during a defiant wartime visit to the nation’s capital on Wednesday that against all odds his country still stands, thanking Americans for helping to fund the war effort with money that is “not charity,” but an “investment” in global security and democracy.The whirlwind stop in Washington — his first known trip outside his country since Russia invaded in February — was aimed at reinvigorating support for his country in the U.S. and around the world at a time when there is concern that allies are growing weary of the costly war and its disruption to global food and energy supplies.Zelenskyy called the tens of billions of dollars in U.S. military and economic assistance provided over the past year vital to Ukraine’s efforts to beat back Russia and appealed for even more in the future.“Your money is not charity,” he sought to reassure both those in the room and those watching at home. “It’s an investment in the global security and democracy that we handle in the most responsible way.”
I've got a little list, I've got a little list,Of societal offenders who never would be missed --Who never would be missed!
Rep. Liz Cheney, R-Wyo., spoke on Dec. 19 as the House committee investigating the Jan. 6 attack presented its final findings to the public.She blasted former President Donald Trump’s actions in office on the day of the Jan. 6 attack. Cheney referenced testimony from Trump administration officials collected by the committee that said the former president watched the riot on television from inside the White House without calling on his supporters to stop.“This was an utter moral failure and a clear dereliction of duty,” she said. “No man who would behave that way at that moment in time can ever serve in any position of authority in our nation again. He is unfit for any office.”Cheney said Jan. 6 was the first time an American president “refused his constitutional duty” to transfer power peacefully.“The committee recognizes that our work has only begun,” she said. “It's only the initial step in addressing President Trump's effort to remain in office illegally.”The Jan. 6 committee will release its full report later this week as the panel wraps up its work.
Look, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son,
and they shall name him Emmanuel,which means, “God is with us.”
The Song of Mary
Luke 1:46-55
My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord,
my spirit rejoices in God my Savior;
for he has looked with favor on his lowly servant.
From this day all generations will call me blessed:
the Almighty has done great things for me,
and holy is his Name.
He has mercy on those who fear him
in every generation.
He has shown the strength of his arm,
he has scattered the proud in their conceit.
He has cast down the mighty from their thrones,
and has lifted up the lowly.
He has filled the hungry with good things,
and the rich he has sent away empty.
He has come to the help of his servant Israel,
for he has remembered his promise of mercy,
The promise he made to our fathers,
to Abraham and his children for ever.
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This 1989 compilation explores a number of interlacing threads in the magnificent tapestry of American history - a story, like all human stories, of highs and lows, light and shadow, sinners and saints. Sadly, it cannot be told in this way today. All history must now be cut to fit the latest pattern of right or left - and shouted, not said.
So enjoy this before it disappears down the memory hole.
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The wolf shall live with the lamb,the leopard shall lie down with the kid,the calf and the lion and the fatling together,and a little child shall lead them.
. . . they shall beat their swords into ploughshares,and their spears into pruning-hooks;nation shall not lift up sword against nation,neither shall they learn war any more.
Last year's Thanksgiving table at our house, which I never got around to posting here. |
The same thought is contained in this educational film from 1951 - the sort of thing that smug, self-satisfied sophisticated types roll their eyes and snicker at. But there is a deep truth here that we ignore at our peril.
Having survived three miserable days without electricity or heat - off and on - in last year's Deep Freeze, my heart really goes out to all those poor people now suffering from lack of the most basic necessities in Ukraine on a scale never seen in America; and winter is only beginning there.
Don't think it can't happen here or can't possibly happen to you; sudden calamity or just simple misfortune can happen to anyone at any time. Count your blessings while you have them.
All good wishes to my truckbuddies for a safe, warm, and happy Thanksgiving.
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I believe the voices excusing or calling for violence and intimidation are a distinct minority in America. But they’re loud and they are determined. We have to be more determined. All of us who reject political violence and voter intimidation, and I believe that’s the overwhelming majority of the American people, all of us must unite to make it absolutely clear that violence and intimidation have no place in America.[We] believe in democracy. That’s who we are as Americans. I know it isn’t easy. Democracy’s imperfect. It always has been. But you’re all called to defend it now. History and common sense tell us that liberty, opportunity, and justice thrive in a democracy, not in an autocracy.At our best, America’s not a zero-sum society – or for you to succeed, someone else has to fail. A promise in America is big enough, for everyone to succeed. Every generation, opening the door of opportunity just a little bit wider. Every generation, including those who’ve been excluded before. We believe we should leave no one behind, because each one of us is a child of god, and every person, every person is sacred. If that’s true, then every person’s rights must be sacred as well. Individual dignity, individual worth, individual determination. That’s America, that’s democracy, and that’s what we have to defend. . . .Too many people have sacrificed too much for too many years for us to walk away from the American project and democracy. Because we’ve endured our freedoms for so long, it’s easy to think they’ll always be with us no matter what. But that isn’t true today. In our bones, we know democracy is at risk. But we also know this: it’s within our power, each and every one of us, to preserve our democracy. And I believe we will. I think I know this country. I know we will.You have the power, it’s your choice, it’s your decision, the fate of the nation, the fate of the soul of America lies where it always does – with the people, in your hands, in your heart, in your ballot. My fellow Americans, we’ll meet this moment. We just need to remember who we are. We are the United States of America. There’s nothing beyond our capacity if we do it together.
Nothing to see here . . . yet. |
Well, I'll tell you. When you get old and gray, and feel a bit worn out in body and mind, it's hard to keep doing all the things you used to do. I've been meaning to post some food pics for a long time now, and waiting for M. P. to send them to me from his phone for longer than that. These cover the whole summer, including birthdays and the 4th of July.
Now they've piled up in my inbox, and I'm not sure I remember what all the different meals were or when we ate them. M. le chef and I will have to put our heads together on that. Whenever we are both awake and clear-headed at the same time. (Old people sleep a lot, you know, and keep strange hours.)
So as a last resort, since the motivation train has yet to arrive, I'm posting all these in one batch below the jump here. Maybe that will stimulate me to get the project done. If so, I'll turn this into a proper Pork Boys post. If not, well . . . just move along, fellas, don't block the sidewalk.
Glamorous Angela in The Harvey Girls, 1946. |
A fascinating behind-the-scenes look into the culinary preparations for a State Dinner at the Elysee Palace given by President Hollande of France for Queen Elizabeth II, who was in Paris for the seventieth anniversary of the D-Day landings in 2014.
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'Tis the last rose of summer,
Left blooming alone;
All her lovely companions
Are faded and gone;
No flower of her kindred,
No rose-bud is nigh,
To reflect back her blushes
Or give sigh for sigh!
So soon may I follow,
When friendships decay,
And from love's shining circle
The gems drop away!
When true hearts lie withered,
And fond ones are flown,
Oh! who would inhabit
This bleak world alone?
Well done, thou good and faithful servant: enter thou into the joy of thy Lord.May her soul, and the souls of all faithful departed, rest in peace.
Well done, Ma'am. Thank you for your service. Godspeed and bon voyage. |
Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, photographed in May 2022, The aquamarine brooches were an 18th-birthday gift from her parents. |
Buckingham Palace released today a recent photograph of the Queen with her familiar broad smile: a lovely parting look at the beloved monarch, mother, and grandmother who holds a special place like none other in the hearts of not only her family and her people, but also in the hearts of billions all around the world.
The queue for the lying in state at Westminster Hall has been closed by the authorities, as the last mourner must be out of the Hall by 6:30 a.m. so that preparations for the state funeral can begin. Until then, you can still watch the live stream of the lying in state here:
London has geared up for the massive funeral, a gargantuan task for the police and military, and a logistical nightmare for the Foreign Office, what with hundreds of kings, princes, presidents, prime ministers, and assorted potentates streaming in from the four corners of the world to attend tomorrow's State Funeral in Westminster Abbey. A quarter of the 2000 seats in Westminster Abbey will be occupied by these dignitaries and their spouses. Also present will be the Royal Family, foreign royalty, Governors-General from the Commonwealth realms, the British Prime Minister and Cabinet, Commonwealth prime ministers, Members of Parliament, officers of the Crown and the Royal Household, the Diplomatic Corps, British and Commonwealth military representatives, and God knows who else.
The guest list is so big, and security so tight, that instead of arriving with dignity in their limousines, heads of state will be ferried en masse to the Abbey by a fleet of hired buses. Imagine the high and mighty of the world all jammed into their seats, like commuters in the morning rush hour. Extraordinary. An exception has been made for the American President, who will arrive in his own heavily armored limo.
The King and Queen Consort hosted a reception for world leaders at Buckingham Palace tonight.
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Buckingham Palace has released the programme of events for the funeral tomorrow, which you can read on the BBC website here.
Auspiciously, a rainbow appeared over Westminster Hall and the Abbey this afternoon, to the astonished delight of those in the queue:
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Our dearest Grannie,We've not been able to put much into words since you left us all.There have been tears and laughter, silences and chatter, hugs and loneliness, and a collective loss for you, our beloved Queen and our beloved Grannie.We, like many, thought you'd be here forever. And we all miss you terribly.You were our matriarch, our guide, our loving hand on our backs leading us through this world. You taught us so much and we will cherish those lessons and memories forever.For now dear Grannie, all we want to say is thank you. Thank you for making us laugh, for including us, for picking heather and raspberries, for marching soldiers, for our teas, for comfort, for joy. You, being you, will never know the impact you have had on our family and so many people around the world.The world mourns you and the tributes would really make you smile. They are all too true of the remarkable leader you are.We're so happy you're back with Grandpa. Goodbye dear Grannie, it has been the honour of our lives to have been your granddaughters and we're so very proud of you.We know that dear Uncle Charles, the King, will continue to lead in your example as he too has dedicated his life to service.God save the King.
With our love,Beatrice and Eugenie
One more thing. In yesterday's post, I remarked on all the manly men who have shown up for this week's events. Today, the King and the Prince of Wales went out to greet and thank some of the folks standing in that long, long queue, and got a very warm response from the loyal crowds. I took this screen shot of one regular guy standing by his wife who shook the King's hand and said to him, "Well done, Your Majesty, and you are very much loved."
Imagine some big butch guy in America saying a thing like that to the President! Unbelievable, but over there they do things differently.
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And as for the gays - oh Mary, don't ask!
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